Anger | How to help self understand their anger?

Frankly we all experience this.

As children, we were taught that conflict, you being upset or angry, was a bad thing. A shameful act to sustain oneself within.

Let me start by saying we have a choice to oppose that nature in which we were taught.

I say so because there is no shame in being upset or holding anger.

It is an emotion just as much as your happiness; therefore, it is just as valued in oneself. But if we are shaming ourselves for having conflict or anger. We are then invalidating one's emotions.

Sometimes anger is portrayed as ugly.

What if we looked at it as a form of solution to the chaos, whether internal or external?

Could we then see more than one side?

How does one begin to accept their anger?

1. Ask yourself why this triggered you to become enraged?

2. Follow that answer with another question: Did I feel respected or disrespected?

3. Now we must look at why.

Once we have given ourselves the why, we have now answered where this emotion arose from.

In doing so, we have acknowledged that it is valid and accepted.

Now we must source this anger; by all means, this is up to you.

Cry, create something, scream, exercise, do anything that will get this energy moving.